“Experience this moment to its fullest.” ~Zen Proverb #quotes
Too often as parents we rush through the days, years then decades with our children and wake up one day with not children… but adults.
My husband and I decided long ago that spending time with our children was one of our top priorities always. We have maintained that priority even into adulthood with all three of our children and our son in law as well.
There was a very popular song in the 1970’s that I know many of us Baby Boomers sang with our transistor radios, 45’s and cassette recorders. While we sang the song I am sure we did not realize what exactly we were saying as we belted it out over and over again.
My husband, being a professional musician was very aware of the lyrics to songs as he also sang them over and over during his many gigs in the 70’s and 80’s.
So in the beginnings of our courtship we sat with our cup of coffee in hand in our third floor walk-up and discussed what our children would potentially look like, who they would take after etc..
Music was always one of the springboards of conversation for us and continues to be a very powerful voice for all generations.
While discussing our future as potential parents, my husband referenced the popular song “Cat’s in the Cradle“. He expressed his goal to me that he wanted to be the father that always had time for his children. When they grew up they would always have time for him because he would have taught them with his actions and his words that they were and are always his priority.
The image above is my husband spending time with our 26 year old son who on that particular day invited us to come along on his photo shoot just to spend time with us as we always have done with him. He invites us into his world and shares his life with us even as an adult living on his own. My husband has succeeded in his goal as being the father he always wanted to be and not the father in the song “Cat’s in the Cradle“
“Cat’s in the Cradle“ is a 1974 folk rock song by Harry Chapin from the album Verities & Balderdash. The single topped the Billboard Hot 100 in December 1974. As Chapin’s only No. 1 hit song, it became the best known of his work and a staple for folk rock music.
The song is told in first-person by a father who is too busy to spend time with his son. Though the son asks him to join in childhood activities, the father always responds with little more than vague promises of spending time together in the ‘future’. While wishing to spend time with his father, the son starts to model himself on his father’s behaviour, hence the verse wishing to be “just like him.” The final two verses reverse the roles, where the father asks his grown-up son to spend time with him after his graduation, and then later come to visit, but the son responds that he is now too busy to find the time for his father. The father then reflects that they are both alike, saying “my boy was just like me.”
Image shot with a Verizon Samsung Galaxy Camera #VZWBuzz